One thing I have noticed about Jesus is that He never lingered over something. In the garden of Gethsemane Jesus prayed three times for God to prevent Him from having to endure the cross, but at the end of the three prayers He was willing to accept the will of His Father.
Jesus wasn’t someone who dwelled over the fact that people didn’t necessarily like Him. He did some miracles in His home town but then moved on because people simple didn’t believe in Him.
I can’t help but think Jesus had a peace about it because He knew the truth, and the truth is we have to want to be in a relationship with Jesus and we have to choose to have faith in Him. Jesus couldn’t help anyone that didn’t believe because it began with their choice.
It’s not easy to have faith when life is difficult, unfair, and there is literally injustice around every corner.
We are constantly fighting battles, overcoming hostility, and even our own guilt and shame for the life we have and others don’t. Or maybe we are struggling with the jealousy and envy that comes with seeing others that have what you don’t have. Sometimes it is as simple as brooding over the simple fact that you just don’t understand why some people don’t like you, and maybe there is just a door blocking you from entering into an inner circle of friends.
SO many things can take our heart and mind to a place where we are constantly battling our moods and anxiety over a specific situation or even person.
Jesus says you can’t put new wine into old wine skins. I often asked myself what in the world does that mean, and I think I finally have a grasp on why you can’t put new wine into old wine skins. Of course Jesus says that you can’t do this because the wine skins will burst. But don’t we all know that Jesus spoke in parables and it is perfectly normal to ask yourself how one of His parables applies to your life? In fact, Jesus spoke in parables for the simple fact that He didn’t want anyone to boast about being a know-it-all. But through my marriage I think I have finally grasped what Jesus was trying to say.
My husband and I have been together for more than half our lives. That’s a long time. When we first met we were different people, very young and in many ways still growing up physically, mentally, and emotionally. Now I would like to think we have grown and matured exponentially throughout the years. But Holy Spirit revealed to my heart that I had been treating this marriage like it had never changed, and we had never grown up.
My thought process, my words, and my actions were all a reflection of the immature person that I was when we began dating and even when we first got married.
As my marriage grows, and our family grows older and more mature, I am realizing old thought patterns and ways of handling certain situations isn’t going to help us move forward at all.
Essentially dwelling in the old life will simply not bring forth the new life.
Why do we hang on to these old mindsets?
Why do we hang on to these old reactions?
Why do we hang onto these relationships and opportunities are truly a dead end?
Sometimes we do need to ask ourself, why do we let it linger when Jesus never did?
Maybe we forget the example of our good shepherd and that He was always growing and always moving.
Yes, life is difficult, and it’s not fair most of the time. But today my heart is filled with JOY when I think about how far our family has come in this life.
Time and events can kind of sit on your heart forever. Something that happened so long ago may feel like it happened just yesterday. Hurtful memories are engrained in our mind, and the enemy likes to remind us often.
But I have learned I can’t treat my 18 year old daughter the same way I treated her when she was 2 years old. Same with my husband, there is no reason I should be treating him the way I did when I was young and immature.
Why do we let it linger in our hearts? This is a question I ask myself every day when I realize all the time that has passed, and all the days I spent brooding over a rejected heart instead of enjoying the life that was right in front of me.
I can’t even tell you how many days and nights I spent worrying about my husband and his illness. One day I simply woke up! I realized there was no peace in being sad and mad over the fact that God wasn’t healing my husband, or that he was even sick in the first place.
I realized instead of worrying and being mad at God, I could be spending my time thanking God for everyday I get to spend with my husband. It was the most healing thing I had ever done for my heart and it revealed to me the things I had to let go.
But sometimes the situation isn’t as easy as being grateful for what we have.
Sometimes the ones we wish we could hug again, or have back in our life again, have already passed away and left a huge hole in our heart. So often we might just find ourself lingering in our grief over their life, and we all know it will never be OK.
The hole in our heart will never go away.
Losing them will never be fair, and unfortunately, sometimes there will never be an explanation worthy as to why we lost someone that was so special to us.
This past year I have learned to stop wishing it never happened, and I accepted the fact that:
- It’s never going to be fair that it happened.
- Nobody will ever truly understand.
- I can’t rely on anyone to make me feel better because they have no idea how I feel.
- No explanation and no reason will ever satisfy the “WHY” in my heart.
In accepting all of this I was able to move out of a small dwelling place in my heart and moved onto this:
Everything we do is their legacy too because they knew us and we knew them. In essence their life was cut short, but they truly live on through the life that we live. In this we have something to live for again. We live for God, and we live for legacy.
Jesus is God’s legacy, and it is one of LOVE and ETERNITY. None of this could have been done if Jesus lingered in old places.