One thing that sticks out to me about the Proverbs 31 wife is that she isn’t needy. She is often doing something to help support her husband, or taking care of her family.
She isn’t crying to her husband about all the needs he isn’t meeting, or that he isn’t spending any time with her, or that he isn’t making enough money. She doesn’t tell him about all the things he should be doing differently in order to be a better spiritual leader of the home, or simply what he should do to be a better Christian, or all the things he needs to do in order to make her happy.
I often wonder where as women we have taken up the concept that men are there to serve us, instead of the other way around.
I think that as women we either embrace a lifestyle of co-dependency on our husband, or one of complete independence from him, there seems to be no in between.
The Proverbs 31 woman is free. She is emotionally, spiritually, and physically free to be who God created her to be, all while being under the authority of her husband.
Too often we are discontent in our marriage, or we have yet to find a spouse, simply because we are looking for someone that can fit into our ideal package of what a husband should look, act, and talk like. Now I’m not saying we shouldn’t have standards, but I will say our view can become greater if we just shift our eyes to the One who can truly fulfill every need.
You see, ALL relationships enter a dangerous place when we are looking to another person to validate us, or to MAKE us feel special, or even secure.
The Proverbs 31 wife did none of these things. She didn’t NEED her husband she WANTED her husband. She didn’t NEED him to serve her, instead she helped HIM.
How can we get to a place of being a confident wife? We need to become dependent on our God. Our true break from co-dependency is based solely on our dependence on God.
Just think about how much more enjoyable your marriage would be, or even how easy your search for a spouse could be, if you didn’t NEED for your man to prove to you that YOU ARE SPECIAL. What if you just already KNEW that? How would that change your marriage?
What if you already knew in your heart that YOU ARE far more precious than rubies?
You are, and guess what, you don’t need your husband to tell you that because God has already crowned you with His glory. As women we need to learn to walk confidently in the promise that God has already given us. This will change your life and it will change your marriage. The proverbs 31 wife has taught me how to be a confident wife.
Love is selfless and it is constantly pursuing ways to bridge the gap of disconnection in the world. Love brings freedom, not only to us, but also to those around us. When we are walking in love we desire the best for people. In this four week mini Bible Study come and explore what unconditional love looks like in your life today.