I remember the exact time when I was little and I realized that the comfort of my home and the security of my family could not prevent bad things from happening to me. I thought about how there was nowhere I could hide and nowhere that was safe. This was a lot for a 6 year old to handle on her own. We all want to feel safe and secure, and we especially want our children to feel safe and secure.
When I think of home, I think of somewhere that is secure and comfortable. A place where you feel you can hide from every trial this world throws your way.
As a family we talk about how we want our home to be a safe place, a place where we can talk about the trials we have during our day, or a place where everyone can find security and comfort. Truly I think this is good, and we need to teach our children this because sometimes they can bring the things they learn at school, or on the TV, home. They become disrespectful and hurtful towards each other, but we want none of that here. So we are working towards being there for each other rather than having an attitude of battling each other, and trying to “fix” one another..
But with all of this being said I think we would be doing a disservice to our kids if we didn’t teach them to have an independent relationship with Jesus. Even though our intentions are good, and we desire a home that is secure and safe, we are also HUMAN. We will fail at times, and I think it’s in those times of failure where the most harm is done if we don’t have an independent, intimate, relationship with God.
The truth is, even though we desire to provide a safe environment for them, we don’t want to shelter them.
God wants our children to learn how to overcome the world, and the world is dangerous. As much as I would like to keep them under my wing at all times, I know this is not possible. We want our children to feel safe and secure, but we do not want to create a codependent relationship with them. Our dependency should be on God alone, and we want our children to have that kind of relationship with God, too.
I think as Christians we all get to a point in our walk with Christ where our relationship with HIM is dependent on someone or something else. This is such a dangerous place to be.
Lately I have just felt this uncomfortable feeling wherever I go. NO place feels like home. Truly it is only by the grace of God that trials do not penetrate the walls of our home, and it is also by the grace of God that when they do, our world is not shattered. I also think when we get to this place where we realize NOTHING in this world will satisfy the void in our heart, and the comfort and security in our lives are there for only a season at best, THEN we are almost forced to build a deeper, stronger foundation.
Recently my husband wrote out his testimony to send to a Pastor friend of his. As I read his testimony (which included me too) it was a bit heart wrenching, and yet I felt like I was reading a story about someone else. I couldn’t believe this was his life, and mine too! There were a lot of painful moments that I had to remember. As I remembered them all I could think about was how every time I felt our life was falling apart, it was just God tearing down the walls of the life we built in order to rebuild a new stronger house, with a deeper foundation.
So now as I sit in a world where I feel like NO place feels like home, no place feels safe, comfortable, or secure – I am forced to find my security in Him. God doesn’t want us to have a codependent relationship with anyone or anything, especially when it comes to our relationship with HIM. He simply wants an intimate relationship with us, one where we are completely dependent on HIM. It’s really not a hard place to be, but we definitely need to be at a place where we let go of some things in our life and replace it with an intimate relationship with HIM. We need to let go of codependency and embrace dependency on HIM alone!
Where can we start?
We need to identify the things we are afraid of losing. Whatever we are afraid of losing is something we are dependent upon. Once we identify these things it will then be easier to move past making decisions based on the fear of losing these “things.”
I’m not saying we should eliminate these “things” from our life or that we should up and leave. I’m just saying we need to stop living our life out of the fear that we have of LOSING this particular thing in our life. We also need to realize that these “things” are stopping us from fulfilling God’s call on our life. Do they silence your voice? Do they remove your confidence in God? If the answer is yes, then they are stopping you from being all that God created YOU to be.
As a writer you learn real quick WHO you are writing to and you forget about everyone else. That may sound harsh, but if we don’t remain focused then we will quickly be swayed by the criticism of those we aren’t even trying to reach.
In life we need to shift our focus to God and listen for HIS voice. The only way we can do this is through reading God’s word and through prayer. Once you start doing this on a regular basis you will be amazed at how much God confirms HIS voice in YOUR life and the confidence you gain from it, too!
We need to learn to replace the things we let go with His word and HIS voice…we need to simply learn to be completely dependent on God alone.