Sometimes it’s good to step away from things that used to give us pleasure but aren’t necessarily good for us. Things like smoking cigarettes, drinking alcohol, certain people, certain habits, anything that may have caused harm to your body or your testimony, but some how they made dealing with the daily pressures of life a little bit easier.
It’s OK to stop finding pleasure in these things even though it might be difficult for you to let go of these things.
Sometimes when we let go of these old behaviors it is also difficult for those around us to accept this, especially if they used to connect with us through those unhealthy behaviors.
Giving up activities that actually create a bonding experience, but aren’t necessarily healthy for your body, mind, and Spirit can actually make it almost feel like you are not only breaking away from these habits, but also the people you have bonded with through these habits as well.
That’s probably the most difficult part of giving up pleasurable things that aren’t necessarily good for you or the people around you.
But if that’s not hard enough, there is this time frame in which you need to find new ways to reconnect with the people you feel disconnected from because of your release of old harmful habits. Sometimes we are stuck left wondering if it will ever be the same again.
We might ask ourselves these questions:
- Will the connection ever be there again?
- Am I ever going to feel connected to anyone?
- Will I ever have fun again?
- Will I ever feel like I belong?
In Matthew 12:44 it says that when we clean up the room and put everything in order the emptiness can actually draw in more demons than the ones we swept out.
Emptiness is a real feeling. For me, not only have I had had a season of disconnect because of my convictions and needing to shift to a different way of living, I have also found myself feeling empty.
Those moments that used to fill me up didn’t fill me up anymore because my perspective of life, and God, had changed.
That’s not to say that anyone that gets filled up through these acts of worship are doing anything wrong, they aren’t. It’s just for me, life had hit me in a unique way, and I just couldn’t process the old way I had worshipped because it just doesn’t fit it in to what I thought I knew to be true.
God never changed in this process, not once. I feel like the knowledge I had was correct, but the perspective I had was not. Life has an interesting way of changing your perspective.
I know when I was 16 years old and pregnant, my perspective on life changed a lot. Instead of trying to get a job to save up money for fun trips with my friends or my junior prom dress, I was looking for a job so I could save money to take care of my baby. Would it have been wrong for me to save money for trips and dresses at 16 years old? No way!
But with new responsibilities comes new perspectives, and with new perspectives comes new responsibilities.
But if we have a new perspective and don’t embrace the responsibility that comes with it, and vice versa, then that’s when our life can feel a bit empty. When our life feels empty that’s when we are tempted to allow more bad stuff in our life than what was there before.
I truly believe the fastest way to move past the emptiness is to find a way to go with the flow of your new life. The resistance seems to hold us back, make us sad and angry, not to mention we might be feeling a lot of guilt, too. But all of those things will never help us to move past the feeling of emptiness.
We all have a choice on how we are going to live our life on a daily basis. Making those choices aren’t always easy, but in my heart I know it’s time to stop sitting back and allowing unfruitful things to be allowed in my life. We all go through pruning, and I am sure we all need to focus on embracing change, too. It’s not easy to do, but when we begin to go with the flow we will begin to start feeling full again.
Love is selfless and it is constantly pursuing ways to bridge the gap of disconnection in the world. Love brings freedom, not only to us, but also to those around us. When we are walking in love we desire the best for people. In this four week mini Bible Study come and explore what unconditional love looks like in your life today.