I can often tell when my husband is not having a wonderful day, or he is especially struggling. Often I will take his annoyance as a personal offense.
In my hurt feelings I will often use his weakness against him. In those moments I will react out of my own insecurities, and my own self preservation, as if he isn’t allowed to be frustrated or overwhelmed with life.
I am also very gifted in reading people’s faces or their body language. Again I will take their annoyances, frustrations, suspicions, or indifference on as a personal attack.
The truth is we ALL get overwhelmed at some point in time and say things we wish we didn’t say, or do things we wish we didn’t do. We all struggle with indifference, being too sensitive, unmerited suspicions, and so on. We ALL struggle with these emotions!
God has been speaking grace over my life. GRACE in my own weakness AND in others weakness. Often when I would run from a situation The Lord would prompt me to stay, wait, and stand on His promises.
When I get to the point where I take on another person’s weakness as a personal offense then I am only feeding the insecurities in my heart. Also, whenever I use these weaknesses against them, then I am also being selfish.
I feel as a culture we are going to move past offense and get to a place of grace. Grace towards others, and grace towards ourselves. I feel we are also moving into a time where will we stop defining a person’s worth by their weakness.
It took me a long time to get to that place. I’m so grateful to have Holy Spirit remind me of this truth everyday:
Who dares accuse us whom God has chosen for his own? No one—for God himself has given us right standing with himself. Who then will condemn us? No one—for Christ Jesus died for us and was raised to life for us, and he is sitting in the place of honor at God’s right hand, pleading for us. (Romans 8:33-34 NLT)
Often we can find ourselves using another person’s weakness as a reason why we can’t trust them. I feel as the Body of Christ we are moving towards becoming a culture where we help others in their weakness rather than condemning them, or holding it against them:
And the Holy Spirit helps us in our weakness. For example, we don’t know what God wants us to pray for. But the Holy Spirit prays for us with groanings that cannot be expressed in words. (Romans 8:26 NLT)
I’m not saying there shouldn’t be boundaries. I have only certain friends I share certain things with. My husband knows the most about what’s on my heart besides God Himself!
I’m just saying in order to love, we first need to stop condemning. We need to offer grace and we need to find our security in Christ.
Even if I’m having a bad day, I know that nothing can separate me from God’s love, and the same goes for every believer I know:
And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord. (Romans 8:38-39 NLT)