I remember being a teen mom and looking at all the parenting magazines I could get my hands on, and imagining myself in the commercials I had seen with the perfect mom and the perfect family. All I could think about was how my life needed to look like that in order for me to be a good mom, and for my daughter to have a good life.
If I could use one word to describe how successful I was at building a lifestyle that reflected the ideas I had floating around in my head about what life was supposed to look like for me as a mom, it would be: disappointing.
Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not disappointed in my children, but I am disappointed with my failure to make my life as idealistic as I had imagined or dreamed it would be.
I think with dreamers that is the downfall, the unrealistic expectations we put on life and maybe even those around us. I have personally had to learn how to put those unrealistic expectations aside and just enjoy the life that is right in front of me.
Definition of idealistic: unrealistically aiming for perfection.After many disappointments and failures in this attempt for perfection, I have learned to stop aiming for perfection, in anything.
In fact I feel a heavy burden by anyone that still has that mindset of perfection. It’s really difficult to be around them simply because my utopian life is not a reality, and it never will be. It can easily cause resentment and anger within me. I think it is especially difficult when it comes to my faith and there is this pressure to maintain a certain image as a Christian, or to accomplish certain tasks in order to “measure up.”
I remember when my husband and I were going through a rough patch in our marriage, I wondered if I would ever be able to trust him again. For a little while those dreams were all I had to hold onto because reality was nothing like I had hoped it would be. But as I look back on that time in my life right now, I wish I had just learned to live in the moment, and to just love my life simply because I was living , and not to only love life when things were going good.
When my husband was diagnosed with a rare disease that has no cure, my idealism went down the drain with that one. For a long time I felt it was difficult to be a “dreamer” again. I was cautious not to get caught up in the feelings and the experiences that made me feel good or important.I feel like I missed out on a lot when I was clinging to my vision rather than living my life.
I am not saying we shouldn’t be dreamers, I’m just saying we should love our life more than the dream we hold dear in our hearts.
Dreams are the seeds of hope and prayers, I pray out of the dreams I have in my heart!
Wanting better and seeing the potential in people is GOOD, and we need to do that more often. But honestly, it starts with looking at our own heart and realizing our own potential, first.
Being a dreamer isn’t bad, but idealism is a dangerous place to be.
Maybe our dreamer hearts should be bent less towards creating the perfect life, and more towards realizing our potential so that we can become complete in Christ.
Right now my heart wants to get lost in the possibilities of tomorrow, but my peace is found in the reality of today because that’s all that is guaranteed to me.
Maybe being a dreamer isn’t about the future at all, maybe it’s about what you can do right now that will make a difference for future generations to come.
Planting seeds is only done one step at a time. Investing into the people we run into today, and loving the imperfect life we have right now, then we will find peace and we WILL be living the dream because our lives will be fruitful.