What would you say to your boss if you knew you wouldn’t lose your job?
What would you say to the bully at school if you knew you wouldn’t lose the fight?
How would you walk out your faith if you had nothing to lose and nothing to prove?
These are all questions that have been running through my mind today. Although I haven’t been outright bullied in many years, and nor do I have a boss, my heart has been thinking about the compromises I have personally made in my life when it came to the fear of what I might lose.
When we are afraid of losing something then we are willing to compromise in order to make sure that thing will remain in our life forever.
Or when we feel we need to prove our love, loyalty, or even integrity then we are more prone to losing our focus and agreeing to do things that truly aren’t the call that God has placed on our life, or they interfere with our family life, and it might even affect your self-esteem and self-worth.
My heart has been aching with the realization that our culture wastes too much time being someone we’re not simply because we are afraid of losing something , or we are always trying to prove something to those around us.
We need to be brave enough to be ourself. If we aren’t in an environment where we feel safe to do this, then we need to do whatever we can to solve that problem. Sometimes that requires stepping away from those certain environments, or it requires for us to test the waters a little more by simply being the person God created us to be.
But one thing I do know is that we don’t have the time to waste being or doing anything less than being ourselves!
When I was eight years old the bullying in school began, not only by this girl in my class but also by my teacher. It is something that I will never forget and it truly defined my life and how I saw myself in a very negative way. I never stood up to my bully simply because I believed that what she said about me was true.
The enemy is a bully. Sometimes we need to stand up to him, but we can only do this if we know the truth about who we are in Christ. This is what Jesus did while He was being tested in the desert.
Before Jesus could start His ministry He had to be at a place where He realized He had nothing to prove – God had already revealed to Him and everyone who was available during Jesus’ baptism that Jesus was in fact God’s son.
Jesus also had to be at a point in His heart where He felt he had nothing to lose.
We can be afraid to lose so many things…loss is never easy, and it doesn’t have to be a loss of a loved one. We can grieve the loss of so many things, whether it be the ending of a friendship, or we move to another state.
We can hold onto to so many things longer than we should.
In Luke chapter 17 Jesus says that if we cling to our life then we will lose it, but if we lose our life THEN we will find it.
I find the more I pray for something it seems that I lose it, or the situation gets worse. So then I dig in my heals a little more and I pray again in case God didn’t hear me the first time, and then it never fails this one thing that I hold onto to so tightly God works ever so gently to pry it from my hands.
I think there is a gift in losing the things you cling to, or the things you pray for.
Our words become a bit bolder and less frantic.
We stop trying to manipulate people and outcomes.
The steps we take have a little more pep in them.
Bravery and courage become a regular part of our vocabulary and are used to describe the type of person we are.
All these things happen because fear disappears and we find the words to speak and the actions to take. We throw in the towel on the cautious life, and in the midst of letting go we find our strength and purpose.
Our mission becomes a little more clearer, and we realize that we truly can come to the throne of grace with just a little more boldness than we ever thought possible.
Love – Four Week Mini Bible Study
I am so excited to announce my latest book release: Love – Four Week Mini Bible Study! Today is the launch date and as always you can grab your Kindle copy for just $0.99! I pray it is a blessing to you!
A little more about the book:
Love is selfless and it is constantly pursuing ways to bridge the gap of disconnection in the world.
Love brings freedom, not only to us, but also to those around us.
When we are walking in love we desire the best for people.
In this four week mini Bible Study come and explore what unconditional love looks like in your life today.
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