For When You Feel Like You Don’t Matter

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I was talking to my husband tonight about how discouraged I was, and how I felt like what I did didn’t matter. I think we can all get to that point of just feeling like what we do doesn’t matter. We see influence as a position that includes a spotlight, and then we put everything else into the category of insignificant.

My husband then proceeded to try and encourage me. He made a great point, we plant lots of seeds and we don’t always see the fruit. I love that he truly does encourage me when I need encouragement, and is bold enough to tell me when I’m believing lies. My heart was confident enough to make the changes I needed to make in that moment, but honestly there were just some things that were still discouraging me that I had no control over.

We then went out to dinner, and I was sitting at my table, this teenager who worked there came up to me and asked me if I was OK. She said it looked like I was going through something. I was so overwhelmed. I started crying and told her that I was blessed and ENCOURAGED by her just approaching me and acknowledging me. She offered to buy me a brownie or a cookie, and I told her that what she did was enough! She then walked away, but as we were leaving she handed me a cookie, and I gave her a hug.

Later that night I was thinking about what my husband was saying, about how the little things do matter. This girl at dinner stepped out of her comfort zone and was able to give me that little bit of courage I needed to keep moving forward. With that brave gesture she showed me that what matters is our willingness to be vulnerable and to reach out to people.

My heart is still overwhelmed and encouraged. It’s amazing how that girl filled my heart up tonight. I can only hope I have the courage to do the same for others. Neither the cookie nor the conversation solved all my problems, but it did erase the loneliness. Sometimes all we need to know is that we are not alone. My heart and prayers goes out to that precious girl, she was truly an answered prayer.

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  • Reply Ashley

    You are more than enough Heather! The world may never see how amazing you are, but the people in your life do! And more importantly our Heavenly Father is enthralled with you and your heart. He dances over the thought of you. He sees all you do for the Kingdom!

    May 14, 2014 at 10:13 am
    • Reply Heather Bixler

      Love you, friend! So blessed to have you in my life!

      May 30, 2014 at 9:56 am
  • Reply Carmen

    You are so precious Heather. I love your transparency and heart as you share what many people deal with, but too scared to share. We can’t underestimate the power of a simple smile, a word of encouragement, a hug of love, or any random act of kindness. It is Him at work in and through us. When we are yield, we can change the world one act at a time. Blessings to your day.

    May 14, 2014 at 12:16 pm
    • Reply Heather Bixler

      Thank you, Carmen! Your words mean so much to me. I love your heart to encourage me, speak words of life, and for lifting me up! {{hugs}}

      May 30, 2014 at 9:57 am
  • Reply Lynn Mosher

    Oh, Heather, don’t you love it when God slips in those wonderful surprise encouragements? So glad He did this for you. May the Lord bless you continually with encouragement!

    May 30, 2014 at 10:27 pm
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