I remember when we decided to sell all of our Halloween decorations at a garage sale, it was awkward.
Most people were skeptical. They would ask what was wrong with the decorations, and I would have to explain to them that our family no longer celebrated Halloween.
Recently our family decided to step away from our church that we had been attending for quite some time, and it was awkward.
It almost felt like it had become this taboo topic like the fact that we don’t celebrate Halloween, Santa clause, and the tooth fairy. Or like the fact that my husband eats his tapioca pudding out of a bowl with a fork.
It was awkward.
Life can get pretty awkward when you decide to do something differently.
Most of the time people will want an explanation because they can’t understand why in the world you would even make that type of decision.
But that’s difficult for the person making those difficult and awkward decisions, because it puts them in a position to where they feel they need to defend the decision that they are making.
I’m not saying we shouldn’t ask these questions. However, I do feel we need to examine our intent before we answer them so that we will deflect any sort of response that might be defensive in nature.When we defend our stance we can often resort to making someone “less than” us in order to make our decision the right one.
In our defense we have a sense of pride that says I’m right and you are wrong.
You see God knows why we don’t celebrate Halloween, Santa Clause, or the tooth fairy. God also knows why we decided to leave our church and in His goodness He will honor that in our life.
Life gets awkward when you do things that go against the norm.
People will notice you when you do things differently and when you make a decision that isn’t what they would typically make.
I think the best way to get past this awkward phase is to be intentional to never make it about who is right and who is wrong, but instead find that gracious confidence in the promise that God is good and He knows our heart behind the decision that we make.
We need to be open to the questions we receive from those around us, and I love it when people ask me questions.
People matter more than our decisions, we need to be careful not to make our convictions superior to people.
However, we need to be confident in our decision before we start answering those questions simply because we might risk exalting our decision over people.
In every relationship no topic should be off limits. Including…especially….the awkward topics.
In our efforts to embrace true authenticity we need to be willing to share those things that might make people uncomfortable. So yes, my family avoids Halloween, and we are looking for a new church, and yes my husband has never been taught how to eat out of a bowl. Life goes on, and I’m sure your opinion of me hasn’t changed much, and if it has, then I’m pretty sure you are thinking our family is pretty darn weird…and that’s ok with me.