The other day I was watching “Father Knows Best” and I have to say I love that show.
In this episode the dad was struggling with all of his friends being successful while he was just an insurance agent. Throughout the show he would become snappy with the kids, lose his cool, and all of a sudden he found himself extremely discontent. Eventually at the end of the show he realized that he was successful in his family life and yes his friends may be successful in business life, but they were also failing in family life.
I’ve been writing online for almost 7 years now, and I have to say I have struggled with the word “success.” It’s difficult to pour your heart into something and never find any true success, and then turn and see others do half the work you have done and find success almost overnight.
But there is one thing I have certainly learned these past seven years, success comes at a cost. It takes a lot of effort to be successful at anything, and even though I love to write and would love to see success as a writer, I’m not willing to sacrifice these precious moments I have with my children. I am a writer but also a homeschooling mother of three. Success in writing to me isn’t worth losing out on something I will never get back, and that is time with my children.
It’s difficult to balance it all, and it is especially difficult not to make success in writing or time with my kiddos an idol, because I have been known to do both.
Success in anything whether it be family life or writing life has always been difficult for me because there is always failure around the corner. Let’s face it, we aren’t perfect, and to me success means achievement. But I don’t like the failure that always happens along the way.
When I sit back and define success on my own terms I would say it is about endurance, not money, status, or even a book deal. It is about sticking with it no matter what. Success is relying on God, asking Him where you need to spend your time and efforts, and then just go for it.
Maybe success really isn’t about achievement, maybe it’s about who has the most faith!
When I define success that way it is clear to me that I had absolutely no idea what success really was until now. I would have to say this blog post has been a success! 😉